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Defense mechanisms
« on: January 10, 2007, 01:15:51 PM »
Just need to vent a bit.  I got in a huge argument with my sister yesterday about the paleo-diet, and ended up leaving in a huff.  She was making fun of the fact that I use paleo ingredients in modern recipes.  She said that I wasn't being authentically paleo unless I roasted everything with a stick over an open fire, and therefore I was wasting my time!  I patiently tried to explain the benefits, but to no avail.   >:( Has anyone else had difficulties of this kind with friends/family?  Any snappy comebacks to offer? Suze
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Re: Defense mechanisms
« Reply #1 on: January 10, 2007, 04:46:17 PM »
Just need to vent a bit.  I got in a huge argument with my sister yesterday about the paleo-diet, and ended up leaving in a huff.  She was making fun of the fact that I use paleo ingredients in modern recipes.  She said that I wasn't being authentically paleo unless I roasted everything with a stick over an open fire, and therefore I was wasting my time!  I patiently tried to explain the benefits, but to no avail.   >:( Has anyone else had difficulties of this kind with friends/family?  Any snappy comebacks to offer? Suze

Hi Suze glad you felt free to vent.  Hope you are feeling better already.

Unfortunately most people like to criticize others to make themselves feel better and make others feel worse.  I do understand why people do it and I don't fault them for it but you have to be aware.

I try not to lower myself to that kind of nonsense because it's unproductive and juvenile.  I have more important things to spend energy and time on. 

Your sister is probably a good person and I'm sure you love her but you showed that you were susceptible to her insults by becoming embarrassed and angry at her comments.  Her own doubt about her diet and fitness and overall health made her feel vulnerable so she tried to gain power back by teasing you.  She also saw that you were seeking her approval or seeking validation for your way of eating and knew she could one-up you.

Women are brutal and cunning when it comes to social interaction.  Us guys are pretty bad at it.  I suggest you keep doing what you think is best for you without giving much thought to what others say.  I also suggest you become more socially aware in these situations.

Good luck :)


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Re: Defense mechanisms
« Reply #2 on: February 06, 2007, 12:44:39 AM »
A strange thought occurred to me, the legalities of which are probably all wrong.

Hunt her dog, with a spear and then roast him on a stick.  :-[

Sorry, my wife says I'm....odd.

Or next time your in the kitchen with her and your cooking, actually kill all of your vegetables with a knife before cooking them,
Or if you really want to scare her, next time she's coming over, greet her at the door, Wearing a loincloth and carrying a spear with a raw chook on the end of it.

As a cruel joke, next time you serve pork, tell them it is Papua New Guinean Long Pig.
Long Pig is what the Papuan cannibals called cooked human flesh.
Apparently a burnt human body smells like cooked pork, this is why the smell makes people ill, because it makes us salivate, and we are revolted by that fact. Also possibly why Muslims are forbidden to eat meat from a pig.

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Re: Defense mechanisms
« Reply #3 on: February 08, 2007, 12:07:58 PM »
I like the way you think, Orc. :D My sister already believes I am insane so I might as well go whole hog with her!!!!  I like the idea of slaughtering vegetables in the kitchen.  I might try that in front of my teenagers, just to keep them a little off balance. 

Just an aside, but the Maori word for white people, "pakeha," also means long pig.

Suze

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Re: Defense mechanisms
« Reply #4 on: February 12, 2007, 04:36:25 PM »
Hang in there Suze. Firm resolve beats irrational criticism any day. I get flack from family too, but mostly they just don't understand, and they refuse to learn more. I've even been accused of going religious! (Of all the nerve...)

I feel that most of the world just isn't ready to look at things out of an emotional construct. After all, why would anyone eat rice pudding otherwise???

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Re: Defense mechanisms
« Reply #5 on: February 12, 2007, 07:41:20 PM »

Just an aside, but the Maori word for white people, "pakeha," also means long pig.


Fact: Human flesh tastes like ham

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Re: Defense mechanisms
« Reply #6 on: February 24, 2007, 07:07:30 AM »

Just an aside, but the Maori word for white people, "pakeha," also means long pig.


Fact: Human flesh tastes like ham

Well, I suppose it depends on which part you eat ;D. Perhaps this topic should go on to another thread?!