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Offline paleowoman

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Attachment parenting and car rides
« on: September 20, 2011, 09:03:09 AM »
How do you other parents that practice attachment parenting go about driving a car with your baby? Our baby is just happy alone in the car seat for a short while and then she protests. And we live out in the country so we have to take the car wherever we go.

How combine believe in baby-cries and baby-wearing with car rides?

Thanks for your answers!

Offline kyleen66

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Re: Attachment parenting and car rides
« Reply #1 on: September 21, 2011, 02:14:29 PM »
Honestly, the baby is safest in the car seat, bottom line. If baby fusses and protests, that's better than something terrible happening.

Things that can make it better is to have someone sit in the backseat with the baby if she's still in the "back seat" mode of infant size. Once she's larger, you can move the seat to the passenger side IF YOU CAN DEACTIVATE THE AIRBAG that would deploy in the front. If you can't, you really are best off keeping her in the back.

Remember, no one 'plans' for accidents. That's why they are called accidents.



Offline Warren Dew

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Re: Attachment parenting and car rides
« Reply #2 on: September 21, 2011, 05:48:22 PM »
With two adults in the car, have one sit in the back with the baby.

With one adult in the car, put the baby's car seat on the passenger side so you can touch and reassure occasionally, say at red lights.  Once the child is big enough to go in a forward facing seat, you can move it to the front if that's legal in your state.  If your front seat doesn't have an air bag sensor, deactivate the air bag to be extra safe for children under 10 or so; however, the air bag is primarily dangerous for children in backward facing car seats.  The issue is that the air bag has deadly force within the first few inches of deployment, and in a backward facing car seat, the child's head is much closer to the air bag.

Note that children are safer in an accident in the back seat even after they are older for the same reason that adults are safer in the back seat - there's extra crush room in a frontal impact.  However, I notice that most adults ride in the front seat anyway.  I'm willing to make the same tradeoff for my children, as I think they get more cognitive stimulation in the front seat.

Also note that accidents aren't the only concern.  Children have died from being forgotten in the back seat:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/02/27/AR2009022701549_2.html?sid=ST2009030602446

My discussion and additional links here:

http://psychohist.livejournal.com/53777.html

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Re: Attachment parenting and car rides
« Reply #3 on: September 26, 2011, 03:17:47 AM »
Thanks for your input. I was curious if others have had the same challenges as I have. For me a car ride that would normally take 20-25 minutes can take more than an hour because I have to stop (maybe several times) to soothe, or breast feed or alike.

I try to plan the car rides to when my baby is near to sleep or just have fallen asleep, or when she has just slept and been fed and are presumably happy for a while. Which means I might be stuck where I am for a while, go shopping groceries is a good way to spend that time since she is entertained by what she sees and also easily falls asleep in the sling.